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For all the (dark skinned black) girls who think they’re too nice. 

Of course I couldn’t speak about this topic without touching on colourism. At a dinner some time ago, two lighter skinned black women giggled about the men that they perceived to fancy them because of their ‘light skin and light eyes’. There was a perceived ‘I am better than you because I am light skinned’ entwined into the chiming sound of their laughter and  it sat beneath my skin like an irritant. Hastily I snatched up my glass of Prosecco and tried to file their joke away as ignorance but it lingered with me just as it did when teenage boys on the number two bus mocked me every day for being too ‘Blick.’ 

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Forever Friends? - updated!

I have also come to accept that true friendship is bound by no human idea of time. I have not blessed my eyes on someone I regard to be one of my best friends for almost two years. Regardless of space between us, I know that should the chips fall where they may, there isn’t a thing we wouldn’t do for each other and I feel so privileged to have experienced that depth of friendship in my lifetime. Aside from him, I’m also very blessed to have a sister whom I trust implicitly. Should I have the overwhelming urge to curse someone out of their name, she is the fist number I call. As a child, I couldn’t predict that I was actually living with my #BESITE but that’s what she has become to me. 

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FIVE STEPS TO YOUR BEST YEAR YET 

I hate to do it too ya, I really do. Especially at this time of year when it feels like every app is trying to ram ‘positive thinking’ down your throat but to be honest babe, it is very important. Now not everyone is ready for that, so I feel no way about you logging off right now but for those of you who are really and truly tired of ending a year thinking that you need to cut some friends, you didn’t stick to a diet or didn’t meet certain financial goals then I hope you stick around. 

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